Wednesday, April 14, 2010

The Birds And The Bees

 
Oh my!.... last night was rather devastating for me. Turns out my little one knows more than we thought he did about the birds and the bees.... all garnered from peers at school..... in graphic detail. What do these 7 year olds get up to? How do they live? What are their parents telling them, exposing them to?

My eldest son came downstairs last night, aftering supervising my youngest's shower (I know we're very spoilt). "I'm so worried Mum, he knows so much more than I did at his age". I do remember back to that moment, when he was about 9. "Mum and Dad, all the kids are talking about it at school, and I am sick of not knowing the truth... so tell me". I looked wide eyed at my hubby and he mouthed to me "don't panic"... just as well we had his favourite National Geographic shows to fall back on, to use as examples.... and we're scientists.... so we went all technical with his favourite animal examples....and he was happy.



So my little one spilt the beans, stood in front of us and his brother (like he was presenting a dissertation) and told us the lot. My little darling, you are too young, I was thinking. You're my baby. Big brother had his head in his hands! Little one finished his spiel and then proudly announced, "but I know it's not true, they're just making it all up". "Some bits are true darling"...I spluttered... and then big brother took over.. he was in control... he knew how to tamper the gritty stuff and bring it all back to the nature shows on the National Geographic channel and the 'real' birds and the bees. Thank goodness for Foxtel is all I can say.... and big brothers....

I hugged my big boy later and asked how little one's friends could possibly know all that stuff. My son matter of factly said, "oh they have big brothers" . "But  so does your little brother", I said.... and he said, "but I protect mine"...... doesn't. get. any. better. I. tell. you.
A-M xx

30 comments:

  1. Oh my, I don't remember getting THAT much of an education when I was that young but how the times must be changing. You are so blessed to have such a responsible, caring and loving eldest son. I only hope I was as good an eldest sibling to my brother and sister as he is to his little brother.

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  2. Oh my! So glad it all had a happy ending but how traumatic for you A-M. I remember my son coming home from a sleep-over around age 8 and telling me they had watched a certain dvd - I was mortified (to the point of tears) knowing what had been deposited in his innocent mind.
    Bless your elder son, what an amazing young man he is and so wise.
    A really well written post, I just wanted to keep reading.
    Angex

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  3. Sad but true fact that children get alot of that stuff from school! We have to make sure they get the facts at home though ....i have left it as long as possible so as to not 'spoil' it for them! some children can be thugs( for want of a better word) when spoiling it all for others. KG

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  4. The daily back of the car question at the moment (from my 4 year old) is, "How did you make me into a baby?". I gave her a really lame romantic answer, which, being the bright girl that she is, didn't satisfy her. So I gave her as scientific an answer as I could..it's hard when they're sooo young! Rxx

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  5. Oh A-M!!! That must have been a really full-on night for you! Lucky you have such wonderful boys and such a loving big brother for a son.
    I don't want to think about when we get to that point with Will one day :( Have a great day.
    Jxx

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  6. It's so so hard to keep our babies, babies. Yes, they have to grow up but there's so much out there that they don't need to know - just yet.

    Your older son is a treausure. Such a wise little man.

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  7. Oh, that last line by your eldest just killed me, I started to cry. F and I always discuss how we hope that our boys will always be as good friends as they are now. We worry that their friendship will diminish as they older (we have friends whose children just don't get on, always fighting). This is just the sweetest. Thanks also for the tip on how to handle the birds and the bees.
    Have a great day.
    Engracia
    xx

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  8. i hear you a-m _ had the same experience with my girls at around the same age. mind you one was very interested and asked lots of questions and the other is still ewww gross, suits me fine for now lol!! melxxx
    ps sometimes wish we could live on an island and raise them how we want to without all the outside influences!

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  9. wow, that's amazing. bursting with pride, you must be.

    jxx

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  10. Wow - what a beautiful big brother. You are truly blessed with those boys.

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  11. Hilarious ... boys are wonderful

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  12. So cute. We got our kids a medical CD that showed all kinds of medical info including the basics. It was all kind of technical and sciency but then that is us.

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  13. Oh A-M your boys are just so adorable..I fall inlove with them more each time I read another post about their little adventures...and curiosities..lol
    I think ..all in all..it went pretty well...and how wonderful that he has a big brother to protect him :) Just gorgeous x

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  14. Oh my gosh it's shocking how much littlie's know...but I did find this post hilarious...it's how you wrote it.

    You have gotta be one proud mother though, that young Mr of your's is just fantastic and I'm sure the little one will follow in his footsteps.

    xoxo

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  15. I reckon my Mum's answer to my query as inquisitive brat is still the best. 'One day you will fall in love, get married & something wonderful will happen!' - end of story. If only it was that easy!! I'm feeling for Little One, when the girls at school told me I didn't possibly want to believe the mechanics of it either. This was not the picture Mum had painted!!
    Millie ^_^

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  16. It's a sad world our kids live in really, isn't it. They are exposed to so much at such an early age. But then I didn't learn ANYTHING from my mother, bit like Millie, so perhaps being forearmed is being forewarned?? Little one is very lucky to have such a wonderful protective big brother. He would be just perfect for my 9 year old.....but she's not into boys - eeeeww!Long may it continue, I say.
    Jennifer XX

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  17. Oh.wow.that.was.great! You and your hubby are doing something right to be raising such great boys!! Well done!

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  18. I remember having to go to a special seminar to learn about the birds & bees when I was in primary school. It meant absolutely nothing to me at that age!! silly really...

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  19. I remember when my 9 year old wanted to know about the lions in the zoo. I read him a particularly cute book about humans on the subject that I had hidden away. When we got to the end he said "Mum, I only wanted to know about lions". It was one of those priceless comments that you never forget.

    My daughter who was older was really fond of questions and I decided early on we wouldn't lie. We gave her snippets of information like Mum has eggs, Dad has fertilizer. I bet she could just visualize Dad in the shed with the bag he had bought at the garden centre!

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  20. beautiful beautiful beautiful boys......
    Katie xx

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  21. I feel for you A-M, I've been there and know how hard it is when they ask the curly questions. I found the more scientific and technical I was, the more they just accepted my explanation. But I have to say your little one has an awesome big brother there! I'll bet you're proud as punch and with good reason. K xx

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  22. You have so many messages but I just have to add another. I cannot decide what I love more...your house or your boys!! :)

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  23. Sounds like a "big glass of wine with dinner" kind of day to me. We have the 'Secret boys business" book which is great. Humourous without too much detail. My boys love the comparisons of sizes and shapes. Your boys are priceless with their support of each other.

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  24. It just melts my heart every time I read about your beautiful boys - such lovely characters you have raised them to be - what darlings!! x

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  25. No, it doesn't get any better than that! And it's clear that both your boys are very lucky to live in your house and be raised by you both!

    Kat :)

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  26. How cute! Personally, I don't think it's bad for him to know as long as it's not TOO detailed and he knows the truth. I had the basic idea at 7, and then had sex ed at 9 in school, and it didn't make me rush into anything! That said, I remember being 11, and my best friend told me what a certain term meant, and I remember REFUSING to believe her. Ha! She was right, but some of this sounds pretty outlandish when you are little.

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  27. Awwww! Sweet, sweet, sweet!! How heartwarming! God bless your little boys!

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  28. Oh my gosh this is so awesome! I have two boys as well, and my older one (only 3) is already very protective of his little brother. Makes my heart ache with pride. And although it seems outrageously young to be curious about such things, I was only 7 or 8 when I asked. My mom pulled out her medical journals, we had a long talk, and that was that.

    And I ADORE your house!

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Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave me a comment. I love hearing from you. A-M xx