Saturday, February 26, 2011

Ageing

Something pretty - courtesy Arden Stephenson

Secret - it was my 44th birthday the week before last. James reckons I don't look a day older than 33... and that's with my beetroot running face and sweat matted hair... not a particularly good look. He's a charmer! Thanks James (he says hi by the way and is still saying thank you to you all, with eternal gratitude). I had a spring in my step after his compliment. Please creaky body, stay 33 in spirit and not 44. As Mark Twain said, "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter".

My boys showered me in pretty presents... and... a fabulous blackjack kit, complete with a professional playing felt and chips! Oh fun! We mastered our blackjack prowess under miners lights during the flood blackouts. Shhh boys, don't tell Gran.. she would not approve of your mother teaching you how to gamble!

"There is a fountain of youth!...it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age" -  Sophia Loren.


I'd be interested to hear your take on ageing. It's 5am, I feel like a chat. Is anyone awake out there? Northern Hemisphere? Oh how I wish I was not an early riser... especially on Saturdays.
My kingdom for a 'sleep in'.
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49 comments:

  1. Hey - it´s your birthday and you don´t tell? Hmph! :-D

    Well, I can still shout "Happy Birthday" so loud that it crosses oceans - it sounds like you were spoiled well by your boys. :-)

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  2. Happy Belated Birthday dear friend....I hope you are all recovering from the awful weather you have had.....I am 'up' in the northern hemisphere - it's only Friday afternoon here, and we are being bombarded with a blizzard here in Cleveland, Ohio.. Take care and enjoy the early morning quiet hours. !

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  3. How funny - I was just thinking how you you get up so early when I saw the time of your blog post. I have found that I get older (another 40 something), I sleep less and get up earlier too. Soon we'll be having dinner at those places that offer discounts if you eat before 6 pm. Many Happy Returns to you! x

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  4. Oh dear Thea, I do have dinner in those places offering discounts before 6pm. Have done for a long time! A-M xx

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  5. Happy Birthday A-M ! We are the same age ( oops did I say that out loud ) I never admit that to anyone.
    I love the quote from Sophia Loren , writing that one down now. I must get my creative juices flowing again to keep me young.
    Im up at 5am every morning also , trouble is so is my chatty eight year old , no quite time for me until 8.30 pm.
    Karyn x

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  6. Well A-M I am 52 and I have been waiting a lifetime to get to this age...I love knowing myself so well now. I love wrinkles and grey hair, I love the character in my face. I am entering a new phase and loving it. Enjoy being 44...you won't have the chance again.

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  7. Happy birthday!

    Been up since 5 actioning baby shower stuff. The nursery is perfection but I can't figure out how to collapse the pram!

    I like some bits of aging- the wisdom, the friends, the sense of understanding yourself.

    I hate the collapse of my face and how I have less energy.

    I hate hate hate the way women can become invisible as they age. I really hate that.

    That bit sucks.

    xxx

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  8. Well, darling I'm awake in South Hemisphere, We will be having dinner it's Friday afternoon here in Brasil.( is my english correct?)
    and happy birthday , you are an inspiration every single day to me.
    Kisses from Brasil

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  9. I was just having this conversation with my youngest stepdaughter last night when we went roller skating together. We were trying to figure out why a 14 year old loves hanging out with a 36 year old! We put it down to enthusiasm. I think a lot of people, as they get older, lose their enthusiasm and therefore their vitality. You have an abundance of enthusiasm so I'm not surprised that you appear so young. And why do you think so many people love reading your blog Miss A-M? Rachaelxx

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  10. HAppy belated birthday. I wish I was an early bird, but sadly I am not. I am However nearly one year older than you! I am very seriously considering downloading c to 5 running app. Should I do it? Does it have music? See so many questions, my mind is still young and enquiring!

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  11. Hi A-M, I'm right there with you as I turned 43 on February 11...I actually really like getting older. Oh I know there are physical limitations that come with age but that's normal. What I like is that I am no longer defined by my youth and my looks. When I was younger I had the sort of looks that were attractive to men and it's almost as if I wasn't allowed to have brains as well, just 'cause I was a blue-eyed blonde with big boobs! It also meant that older women would not give me the time of day. So if I am now losing those looks, I say, BRING IT ON!! I get to be me now...and the older women in my book club actually treat me like an equal (well, not all of them :-). We all judge people on their looks and youth...I'm sure I'm just as guilty of it as others. I look at my daughter, who is pretty and intelligent, and wonder if she will have the same issues.

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  12. Happy belated Birthday! Once you hit 40 you do tend to let them slide by unnoticed. You will certainly remember this one spent gambling by head torches! Enjoy your weekend. ;-)

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  13. I was at a girlfriend's house for dinner last night who I've known since we were 17 (now 36) and we were only saying how much more fabulous we are these days !! still, didn't stop us wishing for the skin and legs we once had... :)
    Happy belated birthday xx

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  14. Best wishes to you A-M. I agree, age is all in the mind. xx

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  15. I am a teacher... heard two little kids talking outside their classroom. Said the first very proudly, "I'm five!" Said the second, even more proudly, "well, I'm six!" I joined in the conversation and asked, "how old do you think I am?" They looked me up and down and after a moment, the six year old exclaimed, in all seriousness, "7!!??" hehe, true story, happy belated birthday!

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  16. Dear A-M Wishing you very happy Birthday.
    44 is the best , I must know I will be turning the same number very soon.
    Enjoy
    XXXXX
    V

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  17. The forties are WONDERFUL - don't start to worry! Honestly, it matters less and less - it's not about the page number, all about the content.

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  18. I am turning 40 this year and don't feel any different than I did 20 years ago. Except now I have creaky knees and my face is starting to sag. I also have many friends in their 20s and some in their 50s and never think twice about the age difference. I was abruptly brought back to reality the other day when a friend's 17 year old daughter referred to me as an 'old lady'. So now I'm wondering if I am indeed an old lady. Should I started dressing like one? Wearing my hair as one?

    Have a good weekend.

    TDM x

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  19. I was actually up at 5.30 this morning awoken by the sounds of Vinnie and Chloe (our 2 pink galahs) with a 4 metre python on the roof of their aviary. If I had known you were on line A-M I would have given you a blow by blow of the drama as it unfolded! A very Happy (belated) Birthday to you my friend. You know, I am stronger and fitter today at 56 than I was at 46. Last year I climbed my mountain (all 100 metres 3.5 kms of it!) with my 25 year old son and my daughter's boyfriend and matched them stride for stride. I keep my mind active, am (annoyingly)enthusiastic and positive, am always on the look out for new projects and have tremendous admiration for my GEN Y colleagues. They keep me young! My tip to you - keep doing what you're doing and forget the numbers. (Oh yes, and get a good moisuriser and face serum - I swear by the Body Shop's "Wise Woman"!) Have a great weekend ;)Sharyne

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  20. I am seeing Lily Tomlin, one of my heroes this week and she is 71 and looks amazing. Her show is on at 9pm and I was thinking, I might have to have a little nap before I go...but she is 71 and able to do a whole energetic performance at that time..so proof that age is as much a state of mind as anything. I was so tempted to wish you a happy birthday in my comments on the day, did you notice I said "have an extra special day today" on the birthday day ha. Have a wonderful weekend cheers Katherine

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  21. Katherine, I did wonder about that comment! I thought 'how could she possibly know, she couldn't'.... so I thought it was just the universe directing you to say nice things to me on the day! Ha, I had no idea. No idea! Still wearing them. Daily. So special. A-M xx

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  22. Happy belated birthday A-M!! I'm so glad your boys spoilt you on your birthday and you have already had lots of fun with your birthday present. Age is just a number, what matters is how you feel and with your recent morning runs, you're years younger than me :)

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  23. Us 67 girls rock - you are in fine company and I too am an early riser - best time of the day but you do start yawning around 5 - up with the larks and off to bed with them works well! You are as old as you feel inside - I laugh now when people gasp at my zimmer frame status - I look much younger too. Stuff it - let's just have fun!

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  24. Oh WOW happy happy happy birthday to you my lovely. I'm so glad your life is bringing you so much to smile about now. I sense your life is taking on a whole new meaning and you are embracing so much more that life has to offer. You inspire me and you make me smile. May 2011 be the year of A-M. xxxxx

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  25. A very happy belated birthday to you, A-M. You young thing, you! I will be sixty this fall and have never felt better. I learned (late) the value of exercise and a strong body. But better late than never. Being fit makes everything easier. And it's so good for calming the spirit. You will find as you traverse the 40's and 50's that your mind and spirit just get better and better. It's something to with coming fully into yourself and fearlessly being who you are without having to please anyone else. Very powerful stuff, that. You will love what lies ahead. And make sure to use a 50 sunblock on your face and wear a hat! Good things lie ahead, I can promise you that.

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  26. At 55 I so don't look like my darling Mum or other women of her generation. In just one generation there has been a huge change, we are not our Mothers & I'm surprised how the media seemed not to have caught up with it. I've experienced lots of different things - marriage, divorce, remarriage, stay-at-home Mum to full-time working Mum, & all these experiences have shaped how I am now at 55. I loved my 40's & I'm enjoying my 50's just as much. So will you!!
    Millie x

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  27. Happy Belated Birthday beautiful girl!!
    And yes..I know where you are coming from..Im 38 next month and Im feeling a little anxious about it...lately I have been paying too much attention to the lack of elasticity in my skin on my face, the pudge belly that just wont go, the white hairs that are ever so prominent now...but you know..I still feel pretty hot..lol..and like you when you get compliments and people guessing your age as much less than what is really is..then that just makes me feel a million times better..especially on the days when I don't think it or feel it myself.
    And your right..it is a state of mind..stay young in heart and mind and you will forever look beautiful..no matter what age.

    Sending you a huge virtual hug..you are gorgeous inside and out x

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  28. Well, happy 44th, Lovely! I really think you're only as old as you feel (Mr PB says he's only as old as the woman he feels - cheeky). At 40, I think we both have a fantastic decade ahead of us. We've done a lot of living, enough to work out who we really are. Now we just have to let our lights shine. And you're doing that beautifully, on so many levels. J x

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  29. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! :-)xoxo Kerry

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  30. I'm 46 but I feel like I'm 25. The key to ageing is playing. I play beach volleyball with girlfriends that I have been playing with or against for 25 years. I live in San Diego California, so the weather is usually very cooperative to participate in outdoor year round activities. It doesn't matter what you play. If I didn't play volleyball I would take up tennis, or golf, or bowling, or Bunco. Don't let your kids have all the fun! "We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing."
    George Bernard Shaw/Benjamin Franklin

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  31. Dear A-M, here in Ohio is not even 10Pm yet, on Friday night. Unfortunately I always wake up at 6 even on weekends, when I could rest a little more.But I try to trick myself and stay in bed, rolling and dreaming for another hour or so.
    My birthday was Feb. 18th, and I also turned 44 this year! What day was yours????
    I don't feel old, and I don't really know how I am supposed to feel. I just feel right! I am glad nowadays we have more info on how to eat right, exercise and look better as we age. Besides all of those "magic" cream for wrinkles, of course!
    You are doing great! I never thought you were over 40! Happy birthday dear!

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  32. Happy Belated Birthday A-M! I think age is all in our heads, though I feel it in my aching body some days too! I use the line my father used to say whenever anyone asked how he felt about being another year older...he would say "well it sure beats the alternative!" I would have to agree!

    Kat :)

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  33. Happy Birthday month A-M!!! Stretch it right out I say.

    There's every chance you're an Aquarian, which is a trait we might share.

    xx

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  34. Yep Aquarian! Thank you for your wishes and positive comments! A-M xx

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  35. My daughter just turned sweet sixteen and that puts some perspective on my age...47! I too agree with soooo many comments about OUR generation in comparison with our mothers...I too do not feel my age.....pilates is a wonderful help.....HAppy Happy Birthday AM and I stole your Sophia Loren quote for my FB status....very apt!!!!!

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  36. Happy Birthday darling A-M! I hope you had a wonderful day! Your 44th year will be a big and exciting new adventure I'm sure! big birthday hugs to you! Jxxxxx

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  37. Happy belated birthday. I have forgotten if i am 43 or 44, i think 44, how sad is that??? Stopped counting at 40 really !! I got that book delivered that you recommended a few posts back, am yet to start on it but am looking forward to it..so..thanks :) Mel xx

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  38. I am 42...having a teenage daughter makes you feel old...or is it having a teenage daughter reminding you that you're to old to have an opinion on anything cool.

    Now that I know you are running, and my age, I know that I can do it too. When I am redundant later next week it is definitely on my to do list!

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  39. I am 42 and actually feel old when my kids remind me constantly...very kind of them! Unfortunately teenagers have this nasty nack of letting you know that anyone over 25 can't possibly know anything!

    You're running is my inspiration! It is on my to do list. Once I finish work this week!

    I also wanted to say thank you for thinking of us in Christchurch this week. It has been a very tough week. My boy turned 12 yesterday and while there were no frills we were all very grateful to be celebrating.

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  40. Happy birthday beautiful A-M,

    Sounds like you had a lovely time with your treasures. Early morning chats we will probably never do- I am a late night owl I'm afraid! Love you. Emma. xx

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  41. Happy Birthday! You and your charming boy are close together, another reason for "extended birthday" celebrations. My daughter turns 40 in June and is celebrating by running the Marine Corps Marathon in Oct. with her 40 yr old friends. That sorta tells you how old I am, but I stay young taking care of her kids...soccer and basketball today. Not to mention all the gardening, and I still work part time on stage lighting, hanging instruments 30 feet up. No time to get old!! Just keep active is the secret.

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  42. I don't know if you remember that scene in the car park in the film 'Fried Green Tomatoes....'. In a final response to a smarmy young woman who has just made an ageist remark, Kathy Bates deliberatety prangs her car into the other woman's and triumphantly says: 'Face it, I'm older and I have more insurance.'
    I kind of feel like that now I've passed 50 and it's a phrase both my husband and I sometimes jokingly bandy about. I'm happier than I've ever been, partly because I know myself so well, I like and am forgiving of myself and I *know* I'm right in arguments...by virtue of the fact that I've been around long enough to know what's what! ;)
    (I could do without the aches and pains mind you)!

    I *love* that Sophie Loren quote. Quite made my day ...If that's true, then mentally I am a mere whipper snapper because I've never *been* as creative as I am now.

    A belated Happy Birthday A-M. x

    P.S. I *want* that house...in that location (I'm imagining the sea out there on a clear day). ~Sigh~

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  43. A-M my bday was the day after Valentines Day the 15th , another year older, at 56 Im feeling good except for a little bit of trouble with my one knees. Other than that I feel great. Moving to Europe showed me I was able to do something for myself, and after 12 years here I love it. Love going back to visit family once twice a year and having them over here.
    Happy Birthday to you A-M heres to a great year ahead... Cheers! Julie in Holland :) XO

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  44. It has been wonderful to receive an insight into the age of some of my readers! .... just reinforces that age is all in the mind. Julie in Holland, you are so young in spirit I thought you were in your late 20's early 30's from the lively comments you have made here over the years! A-M xx

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  45. Happy belated birthday to you! I'd love to be 44 again... or 45,46,47,48,49. Didn't begin to fall apart until about 52. Please, can I go back?

    Di

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  46. Happy birthday, A-M!

    Age is definitely partly a state of mind, but taking care of your body goes a long way too. Boring stuff like eating well and exercising regularly make an enormous difference.

    At 40 I was fat, unfit and always sick. A major lifestyle overhaul saw me drop 30kg, get into running, cycling and (competitive) bodybuilding, and I became a personal trainer at almost 45. So it's never too late for anyone. I'm now 50 and can beat most 30 year olds on fitness and strength tests - and people are always surprised when they discover my age.

    Who needs a fountain of youth? ;)

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  47. Happy Birthday! I'm turning 43 in April and have ALWAYS been an early riser...the very best time of day c

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  48. A-M Sending BIG HUGS for that last comment to me hahahah ! :) xo Julie in Holland

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  49. Oh A-M I wish you the best belated birthday wishes ever. You know how I feel about birthdays and ageing - keep celebrating the birthdays and never let the mind grow old! Age is really nothing but a number. And I can tell by the youth and exuberance with which you live your life that you'll be perpetually 33!

    XO, Andrea

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Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave me a comment. I love hearing from you. A-M xx